Get Back Together With The Ex Boyfriend – Get A Commitment
Sally was having boyfriend difficulties. If she was to get back together with the ex boyfriend, Andrew, she had decided she had to get a commitment.
Andrew hated being forced into a corner and having to make a decision; Sally had had enough of this. She wanted to know where she was with Andrew He seemed to get pretty serious for a time only to back off and say he needed some more space, and it was the third time he had done this. Sally had had enough of separating and getting back together with Andrew. She was determined that if there was a next time, things were going to be different.
Sally decided to make a strategic plan to get back together with the ex boyfriend. She decided what she really needed from Andrew and prepared a plan in two parts, to get him back.
She started by accepting that they could get back together just once more. If he continued not to be decisive and cancel everything again she would call their relationship a day and move on to other things. Andrew was to have a last chance but there was to be no messing around this time. .
Secondly Sally realized that she had made a mistake in trying to advance the relationship too quickly. For this reason Andrew always agreed to start with but started asking for more space two weeks later.
Sally therefore decided that from now on, it was to be Andrew who set the pace at which their relationship was to advance. The only barrier Sally placed was that Andrew did not go out with other women.
Andrew was prepared to accept this compromise with an acceptance that it was he who would control the speed of things. Like most men Andrew needed to do the chasing and he could not accept Sally taking a lead in this role.
Andrew was surprised to find that Sally no longer called him. When he wanted to say something to her it was he who had to call. If he wanted to do something it was he who had to organize it.
Sally found this difficult to live with at first as in the past, it was always she who had done the organizing. With the new arrangement their dates seemed to be somewhat less ambitious, but more agreeable as Andrew was more at ease in this new arrangement. He was no longer rushing to find an exit from their relationship all the time.
Sally had realized that she needed Andrew full time. She also came to terms with the reality that Andrew wanted to control the relationship and profit from a little space.
Andrew was no longer Sally‘s ex! The moral of this story is that in a relationship, work out what you want and he needs and then get into action.
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