Asking “does my ex want to get back with me” is like putting the donkey cart in front of instead of behind the donkey! All that should be interesting you is whether or not you want your ex back. Only when you decide you do, should you give some consideration to how they are feeling. It is surprising how many people break up without knowing why the relationship closed. After going through a divorce, they do not know why their marriage is ending, even when there are children from the relationship.

It is always so easy to blame the other one yet it takes two people to break up a relationship. Even where adultery is concerned, the faulty party is rarely totally responsible for what happened. When you take your partner for granted, for example, and don’t give them the attention they merit, it is not surprising that they go elsewhere in search of it. There are always some people who will have an affair because they think they can escape their partners notice. It is normally only a matter of time before their partner catches them out; as they cannot stop behaving like this their relationships don’t usually last very long. There are also relationships that merit being saved, because, despite the pain of the affair, the lien between the partners can be strengthened.

You need to know why you broke up if you are to understand the problems in your relationship and be able to work on them. Relationships require a permanent effort and commitment to make them work. Men and women seem to live in different worlds and don’t speak the same language. There is an old saying that a man should never try to understand women because it is impossible. What is it that keeps them together? The initial attraction is no doubt sexual but it is their mutual compatibility that keeps them going once this has largely diminished. So start by looking at what you want out of life and then consider your ex and see if their ideas line up with yours in general, before deciding whether or not you want your ex back.

There must be compatibility if you want to try again. The fact that you have broken up may well be an indication that it was lacking in your relationship. When you know what you need yourself, this will help you understand the needs of your ex. Forget about the way the stars of Hollywood live. Men in general seek a stable and happy relationship just as women do. Men tend to be less communicative when it comes to defining their needs and rather than try to cross a difficult period, they often opt for breaking the relationship. Instead of asking “does my ex want to get back with me” you’d do better to invite them home for a coffee and take things from there.

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