Is your new lover committed to you? Have you thought about how a rebound relationship can work when there are unresolved feelings left from the previous affair?

Rebound relationships are often used to get over the suffering and hurt left over from a past relationship. You have a better chance of making things work out if your new lover was the one who ended their previous relationship. Most people have been thinking of ending a relationship a long time before they actually get round to doing it. When actually do it, they have usually got over the suffering and are all set to move on.

The same can rarely be said in the case of people who have just been dumped and find themselves quickly involved in a new relationship. Some people cannot accept being on their own so move from one person to another just to try to avoid settling the problems that led to their recent break up. They want to be loved and be in a relationship and can therefore become emotionally involved very rapidly. The rebound relationship often does not last long as their new partner cannot accept someone who gives the impression of being so needy.

You have to realize that someone on the rebound does not realize what they are doing. They are looking for help because they are in emotional pain. They end up in the new relationship just because they have found someone available rather than someone that they want to love. As their new partner, you can suffer greatly when it occurs to you that they are only using you as a way for them to get over their past sadness and that they hold no real love for you.

So be very careful how you go about it when you date someone who has just broken up with their ex. Don’t get emotionally involved with your new partner until you are certain that they are serious about you. When you come out of a long relationship it is perfectly normal to want time on your own to sort yourself out.

Like grieving the death of a lost one we all need time to get over it and hopefully come through stronger for the experience. If you decide to break up it is often the end of a dream and you may be regretting that the dream did not end as you had hoped.

So when you get involved with a person you believe has come to you on the rebound, you should try to persuade them to spend some time on their own to sort themselves out emotionally. Suggest that they date others but keep in contact with them if further down the line you are contemplating a long term relationship. If the two of you are meant to get together, it will happen but not immediately. This is the only way to be certain how a rebound relationship can work for you.

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