Plenty of relationship self help techniques exist that can help you bring back intimacy into your relationship. Intimacy levels tend to fade over time as, after a time, nearly all relationships turn into habits and rituals that leave the couple behaving more like lodgers than lovers.   

So, instead of shutting the door on your relationship, try some of these relationship self help techniques to bring back the intimacy that was there when your relationship started.   

Small talk: Couples who participate in short talk regularly been shown to have fewer arguments and fights over their relationships.  Small talk is simply sharing your opinions and observations concerning things you did during the day.  You have to show interest in what your partner is talking about, ask questions and reply positively to your partner.    

Eye Contact: Look at your partner in the eyes when you speak to them.  You did so when you first met but as you become more familiar with each other you look in your partner’s direction without engaging eye contact.  Lack of eye contact is a possible indication of reduced intimacy in the couple.                                

Non-sexual Physical Contact: Touching your partner and encouraging them to do the same thing to you too in a non-sexual way raise the intimacy in the couple.  An unexpected hug, a massage of the back or the feet, without expecting something in return and holding each others hand when you are walking together can also raise the trust and intimacy in the relationship.  

Appreciation:  Concentrate on what you like in your partner and not the things that make you annoy you. 

Time Out;   Far too many couples try to spend all their available time with their partner.  It gets to the point where one of you feels deserted if your partner is not always present.  Hopefully you enjoy being together but it is also good to remember that each of you needs a little time away from the other from time to time.  The relationship improves when each of you spends some time out doing those things you particularly prefer and enjoy.  

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