When Should You End A Relationship
It is never easy to know when should you end a relationship. It is never easy to pack your bags and go after you have spent a certain time with somebody, if it’s lasted a few months or several years. It is, however, essential to learn when to end your relationship as it is often the wisest of moves to take for the sanity of you both.
When you are really in love and certain problems present themselves, the first thought is to stick it out and work things out. You are right to give it a try.
Many a relationship cracks before the couple have made an effort to solve their problems. They give up too easily instead of sticking it out and working on their problems. If only they had made the effort they could now be happily back living together.
Then there are those who pass from one problem to another and keep battling on when their friends say that they should stop. Some people like suffering. Their partner continues cheating on them regularly and each time they accept them back or their partner continually makes errors and leaves them in difficulties.
These people give the impression of not knowing when to end their relationship, where as in reality they are afraid of finding themselves on their own or having to face up to moving on.
It should be absolutely clear that you have to leave the relationship when you find yourself in certain situations. Where you do not feel safe with your partner or your partner treats you abusively, it should be clear to you that you should end the relationship. There are obvious situations that should tell you when to terminate a relationship and move on to new pastures.
There are other situations where it is less evident to decide what to do. When you have been cheated on once, should you pack up and go? Many couples manage to get over such an incident and come out with their relationship strengthened.
More often, however, the person who has been cheated on can never get over the pain it caused and the cheater will get tired of the perpetual suspicion and the feeling of guilt.
It is very difficult to decide if you would be doing the right thing in ending your relationship after there has been cheating. You have to have an open and honest discussion with your partner about your fears of it repeating and your problems of being able to trust them again.
How about if you feel like cheating? If you have a really strong desire to be with someone else, should you end it? These types of feelings are natural. You can even have fantasies about other people. But if you’re constantly thinking that you’d be better of with someone else, maybe you really would be.
Where you are still in love with your partner and you’ve tried many different methods to try to work things out, you should stop and think seriously. Have you really been trying and how long is it that you have been trying different ways of working it out? It is never easy to choose the right moment to end a relationship, but if, after all you have done, there is no progress, this is probably the time to move on.
I advise you both to read “The Magic of Making Up”, written by T ’Dub’ Jackson.
He has helped many people, in a similar situation to yours all over the world, to resolve their relationship problems successfully.
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