You want to keep a marriage or relationship going and aren’t willing to let up on it.  You likely need a relationship rescue if together you want to “Work to save your relationship”.  You can find many books on the subject and obtain help from friends and professionals.  Therapists will recommend you take counselling which can give you both useful theory but, with their help, it is the two of you who will have to “Work to save your relationship”.

The first step to take in a relationship rescue is to be honest with each other, and accept each other as you are.  You must accept a shared responsibility for the situation that has arisen.   Admit your own failures and accept that there is some verity in what your partner says about you.  Accept that you will have to change some factors in the relationship if you want your partner to do the same.  You must both be open minded when agreeing the matters that need working on.

There must be compromise if there is real love.  If there is going to be a relationship rescue, each of you must agree where you can give way and let go of certain parts of the relationship and where you can try to become more compatible.  This can be a very difficult exercise.

Another major part of any relationship rescue, is the need to gain a little perspective.  Many people consider that how they see matters is the sole reality when in fact it may far from that..  Relationship matters get blown up out of all reasonable proportion. Managing a relationship requires looking at a problem from numerous angles and counselling can be useful to help the two parties understand their partner’s point of view.  Some matters may not be at all as serious as you thought them to be.  Understand why some actions have been taken by your partner instead of just trying to guess why. 

You must both learn to talk through problems and when they are settled let them drop and get on with the next subject.   You must learn to forget a grudge you may have, move on, and not fight the same battle over and over again.  When you are discussing matters avoid bringing up the past; realize that you have sufficient difficulties trying to sort out the present

If you want your relationship rescue to be a success, these suggestions may help to bring new life into your couple.

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