You are in total confusion in your relationship.  The relationship has perhaps run its time and you feel that you are perhaps not being honest with yourself and admitting the reality. For you happiness is a mere pretence, or you are worried about what will happen next.  These troubles will certainly complicate a relationship which is almost certainly n some difficulty.    You are finding all this very stressful hiding your true thoughts about the relationship and where you stand.   There is still much love in the relationship but a number of mixed feelings and this explains why you are feeling as you do. 

Start by reflecting deeply on your relationship to things you want and what you don’t want in it.  You may feel you want more romance and life in it or more intellectual stimulation. The items you likely don’t want are infidelity on the part of your partner, abuse and just being ignored.

You then have to go through the list and see what is essential for you.  You then have to work out whether our partner is capable of growing and taking on their part to try to turn about the troubled relationship and convert it into a more satisfactory situation.  If you don’t think they can you should move on.

When all is very bleak, take decisions after much serious thought. Contemplate a separation for a while to allow you both to assess the situation.  It will be easier to evaluate the situation for each of you when you are without the stress and emotion you had when you were together.

This may bring you to the conclusion that the relationship is no longer viable and it is best to separate on a permanent basis.  Some relationships are doomed to failure and, when all is over you will always be able to find someone more suited to you.  If you are, however, both able to make things work in your relationship be sure that you both talk to each other in an open manner. If you do not, you will likely have problems.

Just because your relationship is going through a difficult period, all is not going to finish automatically.  You both have to work matters out together and move the relationship ahead,   either towards its close or a new lease of life.

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