My Ex Wont Talk To Me
“My ex won’t talk to me”. You want to speak with them but you do the opposite saying so they won’t speak to me, then I won’t talk to them.
Communication is going to be rather complicated if you continue like this!
If you really want to get them back you are going to have to make contact, but do so intelligently, little by little. You must devise a strategy to be ready for them when you actually make contact. Learn from the methods used by professional negotiator to get discussions open when the other party does not want to reply.
When they refuse to answer the phone, devise a way to attract their curiosity. Ring and leave a simple message thanking them for something you say they did for you. Be Short, polite and sound amicable.
Their first reaction will be to rack their brains thinking about what it was that they did that you are referring to and they will be interested to find out the answer. Your tone was friendly so they have nothing to lose in calling you back to find out what it was and satisfy their curiosity.
At this point you must be ready to start applying your strategy as you must decide what you are going to say to her when she calls you back. You must have several different strategic plans to reply to the different things your ex could say to you, to avoid her catching you by surprise.
You want to meet up with them somehow. If you just say “let’s go out for the evening” there will likely be a long silence followed by a refusal, so get back to the strategy planning. So you say that Peter is having some friends over for the evening and has invited the two of you to join him, and add “ I know we’re no longer together, but Peter will be disappointed if you aren’t there, so tell me if I can say you will come.” They will feel obliged to come and so not to let Peter down.
If you give the impression that you are indifferent as to whether they come or not, they will not feel you are pushing them to come so it makes it easy for tem to accept.
Once you find yourselves together you can implement the next part of your strategic plan.
Strategic plans should always be simple but, if they are to work, they must be well thought out so that your ex does not feel that they are walking into trap, even if they are!
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