Ending a relationship. It is hard to break up
Are you like me ever trying to put off that task that you like doing the least?
Nobody seeks pleasure in ending a relationship, but when things go wrong, someone has to make the first move to end it. In reality many relationships go on much longer than they should because neither of the partners has the courage to end it.
Everybody has heard stories about break ups that gave the appearance to bystanders of a play from a comedy theatre with the possessions passing by the window. In other cases the relationship just smolders on until one side says “that’s enough”.
Try to end the relationship in a way each party suffers the least. You must understand the real reason, which is often not the immediate reason, why you want to terminate the affair. Next negotiate honestly, if this is possible, with your ex to decide when you will break up. Where it is possible do this in person, and separate as soon as is practical for both of you.
e kind with your partner when ending the affair. It is always best to stay friends after the break up, if that is possible.
Avoid putting your ex in a defensive position. You should talk about what you have learned from your affair and the souvenirs you will guard from it. When you finally break up, your ex may become emotional and you should be there to reply to her needs.
When ending the affair it is wise to avoid taking things personally. In any case, she is probably saying things she does not mean, so just ignore it.
You may have to meet more than once during the break up. Your ex may require some space
Try to give your ex what they need to help them through this period of transition.
You should not feel a sense of guilt for what has happened. Start a new period of your life which will exclude a love affair with your ex. Try to maintain a friendly relationship with them in the future, and do not forget that if the romance is coming to close for the right reasons, it will be to the advantage of you both.
Your partner may need to meet with you more than once to conclude the relationship. Or, they may need space. Give your ex what they need to get through the transition time.
In the future, if you decide to get together again. A break up is not necessarily final. Should you ever consider reconnecting? Does ending a relationship always mean “the end, close the book?” This is for you to decide.
Most relationships can be saved once certain conditions have been respected. If you are ready to take the time and make the effort necessary you can come through the experience and at the same time make your couple even stronger.
That is something you have to decide. Virtually all relationships can be saved if certain conditions are met. If you have the time and are willing to make the effort, you can get through this period as an even stronger couple.
However, if you are have decided that all is finished, have a clean break and get on with your life.
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