How to Get Your Ex To Come Back – Three Strategies
The Aggressive Strategy:
This is the method that most men try to start with as by nature they are hunters and want to go in for the kill. Of course you have to apply it correctly. It will not work if you if you think you can rush off and break into their home to shout at them or implore them to return; this not the right way of doing things.
The aggressive strategy that has a chance of working for you involves meeting your ex on several different social gatherings. You have to show how confident you are and give them the impression that you don’t care if they come back to you or you leave them. You have to be polite and kind to them but give the impression of being a little condescending; you are being polite and talking to them just because they are there. You are now in no way tied to them. If you carry your act off correctly, this strategy can bring you good results, but when you overdo it you lose everything. This is the high risk strategy.
The Conservative Strategy:
This strategy is rarely applied because men are fighters and so this method appeals less to them. It also has the lowest chance of success but is less risky as it does not give an all or nothing result. Even if you don’t get your ex back as a lover you have a high chance of keeping their friendship. So where this is important to you, you may decide to adopt this strategy in preference to a more aggressive approach.
When you adopt this conservative strategy, you have to let things happen as they will.
When you meet your ex, all well and good, if you don’t see them you feel that nothing is lost.
Talk to them casually and honestly and let them know how you are feeling but take things gently so as not to frighten them away.
Tell them that you still have a considerable feeling for them and often think about them. Just play things down but leave them the option to pick things up if they choose to. At least you should get them back as a friend; perhaps with time the relationship will step up to a more romantic level.
The third strategy combines a mixture of the other two methods. You start out down the conservative route while you give your ex the time to get over the emotions that lead to her putting you out the door in the first place. As she gets over the initial trauma and she starts to realize that you are that same person she met at first, you can step up the aggressiveness and push them a little to make them decide, and hopefully this will be to come back to you. Once again, if you overdo things you will risk losing a friend and a lover, so be careful to take your time.
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