You are wondering how to get your lover back?    Tips and advice on how get your ex back are everywhere to be found but you are only interested in those that are going to work well for you.   You want to draw her towards you and not chase her away.

Start by using a little of your instinct and think what are the things that only you know about her.  Did you often argue over small matters that individually seemed to have very little importance?  Lots of small issues may hide a more important problem that you are both going to have to solution before you can think of getting back together again.  If you continue to ignore them they will still not disappear. 

Or was your break up caused by a mutual incompatibility?  If this was the case you should think seriously about moving on and finding someone more suitable than trying to get back into a relationship which is never likely to work because you will never be happy together. 

Keeping a relationship alive is difficult when all goes well, but when your partner is hurt her love cannot rest a long time. Without love your relationship risks falling apart again. 

Your family and friends may have different ideas about why you split up so it is worth listening to them to hear what they have to say.  They may tell you something that had previously escaped you. 

Ask your ex if you can discuss your problems together.  Agree beforehand to end the meeting immediately should either of you start shouting at the other.  Agree to be honest with each other and listen to the hard truths even if it is in part your ex just wants to vent her emotions.  Tell your ex that you still love her and would like to give your relationship a second chance.  Ask her if she wants to make a second try to make things work; it might be a good idea to take some joint counseling, so why not suggest it to her? 

Where mistakes have been made in the past, apologize for what you have done.  You have to be sincere when you say you want her back. You are going to have to struggle to meet your objective if you if your past conduct caused her regular suffering.

When you meet your ex you must be careful to remind her of all the wonderful times you have spent together.  Tell that you have been thinking about your relationship very deeply and are certain that it is only her that you want.  Flatter her a little by telling her how attractive you still find her, but don’t go overboard as you don’t want her to see you as being desperate to get her back.

You should expect it will take you a long time to decide to get back with each other.  The help and advice that others may give you will be nothing in relation to the time you will need together if you are to be sure that it is a wise move for both of you to get back together.

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