After a time, however, you will find the strain of keeping the secret is  too much for each of you. Then you will have to let the world see that your relationship exists. 

When you believe that friends and family will not agree with the person you have chosen, it would be wise to stop and consider why they do not accept your choice.   It can sometimes happen that hey are wishing to force you in a particular direction, but more often they are just thinking of your well being.   Are they worried that the person wants to hurt you or mistreat you, or have they other grounds for believing that the relationship might be bad for you?   Where these reasons exist it is not surprising that those close to you are against the relationship.

Do they feel that the person will hurt you or doesn’t treat you right?   Has hat person given them reason to think the relationship might not be a good one?   If they disapprove on those grounds, you must not be surprised.  In fact, keeping the relationship a secret might indicate mistakenly  that you may not disagree completely with what they are thinking.   In this case it would be easier for all concerned to have an open relationship and show them they are mistaken.

Where they disapprove of the relationship for their own personal reasons, there is no secret to keep!   If they criticize your partner because of his class or financial situation there is no reason for hiding the relationship.    Where th dispute is over your partner’s race, sex or religion it may be easier to guard the secret.   Avoid a secret relationship if at all possible; be as open as you can and simplify matters for the two of you and those around you.

Show those about you that you are happy to feel as you do and be honest with your partner and yourself.  Those about you may understand the real meaning of a relationship when they see you both so happy together. 

Some of your friends and family may not feel the same as the others and be more supportive of your relationship. Others may not wish to speak up for you and show they think differently.   They don’t want to be seen as in a minority and have to justify their views.   Don’t forget that it is you who has chosen to keep your relationship secret a little for the same reason as you did not want to have to fend off the protests. 

I advise you to read a book written by T ‘Dub’ Jackson.  It is a no nonsense, simple, easy to read guide called “The Magic of Making Up”.  He has been able to help many thousands of people all over the world, settle their different relationship problems with success.

For further information click here

In life you often hear of secret relationships but they don’t usually last for a long time.   The couple is under enormous pressure to maintain the secret; it is perhaps the reason why they do bare the test of time. 

It is difficult to carry on for long without talking of the liaison.  If it wasn’t secret you would.   be talking quite naturally about it, so not discussing it becomes more and more stressful as the relationship continues

In a secret relationship you can’t talk about it for fear that those who know you will be listening.  You are perhaps someone who is excited by the tension which you find yourself in.  Is it a game for you to play to see how long the affair continues?  Or is it by bad luck that you find yourself in this situation and you don’t another way out than to continue while it lasts. 

Don’t forget that the other half of the relationship is under the same tension as you; so in fact the strain is doubled.

You can never go out together for fear of being seen together by friends.  You have to be so careful in everything you do to avoid being seen together by your friends.  So you must have a good reason why you seek to keep the relationship secret. Perhaps a casual relationship has grown into a deep affair and, for some reason, you don’t want your friends to know.  Certainly, should you break up later, your friends will not know what has happened.

Concerning affairs between colleagues at work, it is often better that the others around you do not know what is happening.  There are some cases at work where relationships are frowned up on or even forbidden.  In any case, it is usually preferable that your work colleagues don’t know about your relationship.

To be in a secret relationship you are usually there for the dare; you make the best of things while they last and the knowledge that it can finish in a moment.  All this helps keep up the adrenalin, on which we all survive to differing degrees.  It is not a healthy relationship considering matters on a long term basis, as you know that a secret relationship can be ended at any moment often by events outside your control. 

Where this sort of relationship is for you, live for today and not for tomorrow, as it is likely not going to last very long.

I advise you to read a book written by T ‘Dub’ Jackson.  It is a no nonsense, simple, easy to read guide called “The Magic of Making Up”.  He has been able to help many thousands of people all over the world, settle their different relationship problems with success.

For further information click here

In life you often hear of secret relationships but they don’t usually last for a long time.   The couple is under enormous pressure to maintain the secret; it is perhaps the reason why they do bare the test of time. 

It is difficult to carry on for long without talking of the liaison.  If it wasn’t secret you would.   be talking quite naturally about it, so not discussing it becomes more and more stressful as the relationship continues

In a secret relationship you can’t talk about it for fear that those who know you will be listening.  You are perhaps someone who is excited by the tension which you find yourself in.  Is it a game for you to play to see how long the affair continues?  Or is it by bad luck that you find yourself in this situation and you don’t another way out than to continue while it lasts. 

Don’t forget that the other half of the relationship is under the same tension as you; so in fact the strain is doubled.

You can never go out together for fear of being seen together by friends.  You have to be so careful in everything you do to avoid being seen together by your friends.  So you must have a good reason why you seek to keep the relationship secret. Perhaps a casual relationship has grown into a deep affair and, for some reason, you don’t want your friends to know.  Certainly, should you break up later, your friends will not know what has happened.

Concerning affairs between colleagues at work, it is often better that the others around you do not know what is happening.  There are some cases at work where relationships are frowned up on or even forbidden.  In any case, it is usually preferable that your work colleagues don’t know about your relationship.

To be in a secret relationship you are usually there for the dare; you make the best of things while they last and the knowledge that it can finish in a moment.  All this helps keep up the adrenalin, on which we all survive to differing degrees.   It is not a healthy relationship considering matters on a long term basis, as you know that a secret relationship can be ended at any moment often by events outside your control. 

Where this sort of relationship is for you, live for today and not for tomorrow, as it is likely not going to last very long.

I advise you to read a book written by T ‘Dub’ Jackson.  It is a no nonsense, simple, easy to read guide called “The Magic of Making Up”.  He has been able to help many thousands of people all over the world, settle their different relationship problems with success.

For further information click here