So what do you have to do?  It is first wise to remember that at some time in their life, all marriages go through difficult times and are usually saved by a little effort, mutual respect and understanding between the two partners.  The problems must be tackled when they present themselves and you must learn how to do this.  Start by reading one or two books that give relationship guidance or go both of you to take some relationship counseling.  As some people find it hard to talk about their problems with people they do not know, you might to prefer to acquire on internet, a course to help you solve your marital problems or simply get advice from an internet dating site.

You may be asking if all this hassle is worth the effort and this is a question that only you can answer.  It would be surprising that, after several years of marriage to your partner who you once loved, you no longer have any love for them.  You can get that love back if you are prepared to make the effort.  The problem is that life is so hectic and it gets in the way of our relationships.   Well only you can answer that but I am guessing that if you married this person, you loved them once and probably still do.  Real life often gets in the way of our relationships; we have so many people to try and please in different ways, that our partner just gets left out or left to the end of the line.   This is where you have started to go wrong as your partner must always stay at the top of your priorities.  For your marriage to really succeed, the couple must have mutual appreciation and show it regularly.

When the partners in a relationship start arguing with each other, it often out of frustration.  Perhaps they have not made love for some considerable time.  It is so important to keep an intimate relation with your partner.  Sex is not the all and only thing in a relationship but it is the component that keeps you together.  There may be a little less passion than in the early days.  A little practice and patience will enable you to recover it. 

Being able to discuss your problems with each other is absolutely essential if the relationship is to work.  You have to know how your partner is feeling and not just think you know.  They may be under pressure at work or worried about how to meet the economic needs of the family.  Just because they are distracted, you should not assume that they are no longer in love with you; neither are they being unfaithful or thinking of leaving you. 

Find someone to look after the children for a night and take your partner out for dinner and just talk things over. That does not mean talking about the finances, family or the children but chatting about the two of you.  Imagine that you have just met and are starting to date each other.  You will soon realize that there is common ground between the two of you and you can work out your problems together.   

You will likely soon realize that no longer is your marriage in crisis, and your relationship has been successfully rekindled.

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When I think of all the things I’ve learned from women who’ve dumped me, I realize how they have actually helped me save my current relationship.  You see, all relationships are similar in that the same in that they will fail if certain components do not exist.  Your wealth and your good looks will not save you if they are missing; your relationship is doomed to failure. 

All my previous girlfriends taught me some valuable lessons.  They taught me to tell the truth even when it was difficult for me to do so.  She will trust you when she knows you are always honest and being trusted is one of the foundations of a good relationship. 

I learned that they expect me to tell them how I feel.  That does not mean that I, like most men, am happy to talk all the time about how I am feeling.  It does mean that I have to explain my feelings and not just expect her to guess what they are.  I must also ask her about what she is feeling and listen to her replies. I am not there to solve the problems in her life as she is perfectly capable of doing this herself and my intervention would likely only annoy her.  I must listen to what she says and only make a suggestion if she asks me to. 

I have also realized that when I help with the menial household tasks, I am in a better position to ask for the sexual favors later.  Small things done regularly are far more appreciated than a bigger effort that I make less frequently to help her.  The things I do for her are much more appreciated when I do them than when I say them. 

When she cuddles up close to me in bed, it does not necessarily mean that she is wanting to have sex so I must respect this and not be upset by it.  I have to tell her that I find she is the sexiest thing that existed and not just think it; particularly when I am hoping for a little more than just a cuddle. 

When I look back I realize that all my previous relationships had broken up because I did not follow these cardinal rules.  I always thought that all I did was just perfect but I always got dumped because I had ignored my girlfriend or failed to understand them.   I would probably continued to be unsuccessful in my relationships if I had not bought some books that helped me understand what were the main components of a great relationship.   .

Not only am I happier now, but so is my wife.   The things I’ve learned from women who’ve dumped have helped me to make the best of my relationship and they can help you as well.

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Start by telling other people how you are feeling after what has happened.  Letting someone else know how angry and frustrated it has left you feeling is essential.  Don’t be afraid of letting others know what has happened.   It will give you some peace and help you to feel better and understand better what has happened to you.

The people around you will likely try to tell you to cool down when they hear that you have discovered that your best friend is dating your ex.  That you are annoyed and upset by this is normal, as you still have that feeling that you feel your ex is still for you with your souvenirs.  You don’t want someone you know well coming along and destroying all of this

So it is normal to be upset and annoyed when your best friend is in a rebound relationship with your ex.   What is important is that you find a way to let go of all the bad things you are feeling in one simple sweep so that you can put it behind you and start to assess your future rationally. 

You are then going to have to reflect on your friendship with the person who has taken your ex.  Think over the problem from different angles and don’t give them up just like that.  It is perhaps a little stupid to give up a good friendship when you are no longer going out with your ex.

Did you tell your friend that you considered that your ex was forbidden territory for him? How would you feel if you had done the same thing to your best friend?   Try to put yourself in their place and think about how they are feeling prior to deciding if you should maintain your friendship. 

When it first happens you find yourself in a very difficult situation when your best friend is in a rebound relationship with your ex.  You may still have a broken heart after the original break up and so whet your friend has done to you may only make this worse.  So you are right to be angry and want to vent this anger, as it will help you when you come to deciding if, in the end, you wish to keep the friendship with your best friend.

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So often we see, as our relationship develops with a man, we get to a level of comfort where we stop looking after ourselves as much as we did when we first began going out together.  And start to become comfortable.  Yet this is the first thing to avoid when we wan to be an amazing girlfriend. Never let him see you otherwise than when you are at your best

Then you have to lead a very active and interesting sex life in order to be that amazing girlfriend.  Men like to enjoy themselves in bed and they prefer it when they turn their partner on.  Do some reading up and find out what you can do that will really turn him on.   This does not mean that you should do things with which you are not comfortable but bring some variety into your sex life if you want him to see you as an amazing girlfriend. 

Let him go out from time to time without calling him to find out where he is and who he is with.  Men hate insecure women who want to follow their every move. . They accept you being a little jealous when a pretty lady makes eyes at them, but they expect you will trust them when they having a night out away from you.

If you want him to stay with you, treat his family and friends with respect. Thy may not always be the people you want to go out with regularly.  Remember that he will probably feel the same way about your friends and family.  His family should be important to him, so watch how he treats his own mother as you will probably get an idea of how he will treat you in later years. 

Although it may be easy to answer the question how to be an amazing girlfriend, this does not mean that is easy when you come to put it into practice. When you are able to handle some of these techniques you will be better able to move on the next step in your relationship.  Don’t forget that, if you find it all too much work to do this, he likely has many other female friends who would love to have the opportunity to prove that they have the qualities it takes to be an amazing girlfriend.

If you love your man and want to be with him in later years you have to get things right now.  You have nothing to lose, so set about making yourself that amazing girlfriend now.

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Despite all the pain you are suffering from your break up there are some things you can do to help you get your life back to normal.

It is essential that you start to think of other things.  Though it may take some time it will help you get over the pain you are feeling and start to move on without having to handle a lot of problems that others find it impossible to get over.  They find themselves locked into thinking all the time about their ex and so find it very difficult to move on.  

You should avoid letting this happen to you. 

However painful you may find your break up, you have to remember that life will continue whether or not you are still there.  Because you decide to survive what has happened to you, you must learn forget what has happened and move on. 

In the first few weeks you should try to avoid going to places you often went to with your ex and avoid seeing those who you consider as your mutual friends.

Start by doing the things that please you; there is plenty of time to find old friends later.   When you find it difficult to know what you want to do, think of what activities you liked doing before you met your ex.  

What pastimes did you have that you were interested in and perhaps let drop when you met your ex.   Do some hard thinking and concentrate on getting back to doing the things that you were once passionate about. 

As soon as you are able to get back to doing these things, the  sooner you will start to feel better and the sooner you will feel you can face up to returning to find the friends you had and even meet your ex. 

So spend your time involving yourself with those things you liked doing and which make you feel good, and in no time you will find that you are beating the break up blues.

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Take care not to show that you are desperate, especially after adultery.  Yes you want her back, but not on any terms.  You don’t want to add to the many reasons, probably justified, that she presently has for refusing to have you back immediately.  But you must find ways of showing how sorry and repentant you really are.

One technique that often works is to write her a letter.  Start by telling you think she is right to take some time and space apart.  Tell her that that you should both be thinking of going your different ways and that you have realized for some time that the relationship was drawing to a close. Then you apologize to her again for having cheated and say how sorry you are it happened.  Admit that you have had a great lack of respect towards her and tell her again how sorry you are that you let it happen.  Terminate by telling her that something stupendous has happened to you and you like to talk about it with her when she wants to. Finish on this note.

What you have to do is get your girlfriend wanting and loving you, and writing such a letter is a very good way of doing  just this.  You show her in an adult way that not only do you realize what you have done but you appreciate that it has caused her considerable pain.  You let her see that you are not desperate but that you are ready to start all over again.  When your ex reads this letter, it is likely that she will soon be in contact with you.  From now on you will no longer be in the situation of begging her forgiveness. 

You are now, hopefully, at the start of re conquering your ex girlfriend’s love, so you are going to need to be prepared when she contacts you after reading your letter.  So during this time you have to get yourself mentally ready for her.  Look after yourself and work on your appearance, enjoy yourself with your friends and generally concentrate on being positive and looking to a bright future so that you are ready for her when she calls you.  Don’t get upset while you wait wondering when or if she will call you. 

When she finally call, take things slowly.  I hope this advice has led you through the first steps of what to do when you want to know “How can I get my girlfriend to love me again” even if I’ve cheated on her.

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Start out by trying to look at your relationship with a positive angle.  When you are feeling miserable, remember that your misery is communicative.  It won’t be much fun for your wife to have you around when you are like this.  So change the way you are viewing your relationship and start to think of the good times you have had together and how she was so in love with you at the start of the relationship.  Think about what you did do that captivated her then and what you now have to do to repeat this.  Now you know her so much better than when your relationship was in its opening phases, so it should be much easier to repeat this.

Once you able to view life more positively, you will be better able to reflect on the true reasons why she has drifted away from you or even left you.  Have you just fallen into a comfortable way of life and started to take all she did for you for granted?  Did you forget to thank her or show that you appreciated her attentions?  Did you take her for granted and never offer thanks and appreciation for everything she did and tell her how much you still loved her? Did you forget that all women need to feel loved and taken care of?     So get back to the basics and start to tell her that you love her and let her see that you really mean it.  Your wife needs to hear this and feel your sincerity.

Perhaps you have been treating her badly or shown her some lack of respect.  There is a long list of things you could have done that come into this group; being unfaithful to her is perhaps the most important, shouting at her is another, there are many others.  Where as men often ignore these matters, women consider them to be very important.  Women can get very upset about thoughtless remarks their men make unintentionally.  Where you have behaved like this you are going to have to change the way you have been behaving.  So you had better ask yourself very seriously whether you are prepared to make these changes.  If you want to get to get her back loving you again, you are going to have to change your ways. Ask yourself if you are prepared to do this and be honest with yourself about the answer. 

You may be worried about the idea that you may lose your partner particularly if you have been some time together.  The above thoughts may assist you in your objective of getting your wife to love you again and drawing the family closer together again.   When you are asking “can my wife love me again”, always remember that, it’s never too late to turn the page and start all over again with good intentions, as long as you have decided to keep to them.

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You often hear people say that rebound relationships never work, but you can’t deny that lots of couples exist who met shortly after a break up and they have been successful in building up a happy relationship.   If you are starting or in a rebound relationship, read this article as it will help you to improve your chances of success.  

A rebound relationship is one where the person who has just been through a break up, starts a relationship with a new partner almost immediately.  Life is all about chances and occasions and so if by chance you meet the person who you think is for you, even if it is just after a difficult relationship split, you would be stupid to pass the over the occasion.   They can always leave you, but that can always happen so there is little point in thinking about it.   More than this you may be just the person that your new partner has been looking for so long.  

The most common reason that relationships break down is that the partners have grown apart.  This happens much more often than problems associated with adultery.   Never forget that if your present partner split up from their ex, they must have had some reason to do so.  If they had been together a long time before separating, they probably broke up because they had grown apart.   It may also have been that they realized that they did not have the same interests in life, once the initial thrill of the new relationship had blown over, and so could not maintain a relationship over time.  

You need to be careful and take things very slowly if your new partner has also recently come out of another relationship.  It is always useful to know why they split up, so try to find out without forcing the issue.  Always remember that men don’t like discussing their feelings so don’t push things too far and don’t assume that they don’t love you because they don’t talk a lot.  

You also want to avoid trying to compare yourself with the ex as it serves little purpose.  It is up to you two alone to make things work and so comparisons with her ex will not be very helpful.  Ignore comparisons made by other people who knew her ex; they are often pretty good at giving their worthless opinions even though they never knew what really happened in the first couple.     

When it is you who is on the rebound from the old relationship, you must be sure that you are doing the right thing by getting into the new relationship.  You have to decide if you want some quick amusement or you want things to develop on a long term basis.  In addition avoid just playing games with your new partner because you will both likely end up getting hurt.   

Who knows?  Perhaps your new partner is just who you were looking for and the relationship is set to be a success.   Make the most of it with your new partner, amuse yourselves and see where all this takes you.    

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When your relationship breaks up, you have the choice of trying to get your ex back, or moving on to fresh pastures.  You tend to opt for the first choice when you still have feelings for your ex.   Otherwise you have to try getting over your relationship.

When you decide to try and get your ex back, stop at nothing.   You are the sole judge of if they are the right partner for life for you.  Your family and friends will usually be all too happy to give their opinions, but it is only you who is able to decide what you really want to do.  Normally their advice will be well meaning but you have to take care to see that their advice is not being given in their own self interest.  

When most of your friends are unmarried, they will be happy to keep you single, as they may be jealous that you have found someone you love.  If they don’t like your choice, they will be sad to see you leave the group and so may try to persuade you against getting your ex back  

There are also times when it is just not possible to get your ex back, whatever you may try to do to recover them.   When this happens, there is little you can do other than accept the situation and move on.    On other occasions where you split up because of something that was rather trivial, you may be able to get your ex back by letting go of a little false pride and apologizing for what you did.  Women have always been taught that in such affairs an apology might imply she is desperate, so it is often up to the man to seize the occasion and put matters right.  

You will realize how important it is that you think very hard before taking the decision as it may affect both of your lives for a long time to come.  If you are thinking of playing games and taking them back just so that you can dump them and learn what it is like, you would do much better to move on and save your energies for your next conquest.  If you are firmly convinced, however, that they would make you the perfect partner, you must do all you can to get them to return to your life?     

When you want them back you need to make yourself present where they are.  You need friends and family to carry a good message to help you and you must look after yourself and look great.  In time the right message will be heard by your ex.   You don’t want to make it look as if you are trying to hunt her down, even if that is in fact what you are trying to do.  

Why not call your ex directly and invite them out for dinner.  This may be all it takes if your ex has been hoping you would call them as they wanted to call you but were lost to know what to say.     

Whichever way you go about it, plan on doing it right first time as you might not get a second bite of the cherry!   You are perfectly able to get back an ex, just as you can decide that it is better to move on.   So make your choice, but be sure to succeed at it.          

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All relationships go through a bad patch from time to time so it is important to learn how to avoid a long term relationship break up.      

It is so easy to take our partner for granted at times, expecting that they understand what is happening, but when it gets to the point where they start to feel neglected and ask where they stand on your priority list, you need to be careful.  Think of what will happen if someone else starts to show them some attention.  Will they be tempted or not?  Who knows?  It can all happen so quickly and then it may be too late.    

So you have to get in there before things turn sour.  So start by arranging a date night.  Fix up a babysitter for the kids and have a night out just the two of you together.  If the finances are difficult, dispatch the children off to bed early and cook dinner for just the two of you.  Light a couple of candles and put a small bouquet of flowers on the table.  Tonight it is just the two if you together, so make sure that the television is turned off.  Decide that this evening you are going to talk about yourselves so for once that means avoiding talking of the children, the family problems and budget. The only admissible conversation is what you would say to each other on a night out when you are dating.  Behave as if you don’t know each other very well and so are trying to rectify this and learn a little more about each other.     

Things often start to get a little less active on the sexual front as the relationship gets older. Yet it is so important to have some physical contact, even if it is only hugging each other and holding hands together.  You need to always have that little bit of intimacy.  When the only intimate scenes you see are on the television you need to do something to liven up your relationship a little.   

You may think it is all of little importance but you so wrong.     You have to get back to being in love with each other, just like you were when your relationship began.  You likely were attracted to each other physically in the first place.            

Partners who can amuse themselves together and share what they are truly thinking and feeling have something that will help them stay bonded together as they get older. Life is not always easy and so it is so much more enjoyable to have someone with whom to share the later years of your life happily.  

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